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Say what is happening. Ask for what you need.
Prepare one ordinary conversation with a friend, partner, family member or colleague. Find a few words for your experience and make room for the other person's response.
Start with one useful step
- Check the setting. Choose a time and place where a conversation feels appropriate. You can postpone or seek support instead.
- Write an observation and a request. Describe one event, name your experience and ask for one specific thing.
- Leave room to listen. Prepare an open question and a way to pause if the conversation becomes unproductive.
I don't know how to describe it
Choose words that fit, choose more than one or choose none. You can use a plain sentence such as “I'm finding this hard to explain” instead.
Open the related tool →I need something to change
Write what happened without guessing the other person's motives. Describe your experience, then ask for something specific and leave room for a reply.
I want to reach out
Suggest one manageable activity or a short catch-up, with room for the person to decline or suggest another time. You decide whether and when to send it.
Know the limits
This worksheet is a communication aid, not a relationship assessment or mental-health diagnosis.
Direct conversation is not always appropriate. If you are afraid of someone's response, prioritize your safety and seek suitable support rather than using this as a confrontation script.
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